.by John Lawrence
That dependency is a bad thing most Americans would agree. The US is a nation of rugged individualists who have to get up off their duff, work hard and earn their rewards, not a nation of people who sit around and get waited upon unless they happen to be rich and don't have to work for a living because they have plenty of money to hire people to do everything for them. But people without that kind of money have to do things on their own and not expect other taxpayers to pick up the tab for them. Why should there be a transfer of taxpayers' hard earned money to help someone who won't get up off their duff and help themselves. Why should there be a transfer of money from the more able to the less able, from those willing to work hard to provide for themselves to those who won't or can't work hard.
Nevertheless, there are those among us who are in a situation of dependency. Conservatives don't want their hard earned money transferred in the form of taxes to help them. Why should someone who has worked hard all their life have the government forcibly take their money from them to support someone who is unwilling or incapable of working hard to support themselves? Why should some taxpayer's dollars go to support people like my sister, for example. My sister, Jeanne, was born with severe brain damage although that wasn't apparent at first. It didn't become apparent until she didn't develop along normal lines. First, she didn't learn to walk at the normal age, and then she didn't learn to talk at the normal age. Although she did eventually walk with difficulty for a few years, she never learned to talk. Her mental age her entire life was that of a one and a half year old. Therefore, my sister couldn't do the simplest things for herself. For instance, she couldn't go to the cupboard, get a cup, go to the sink, turn on the tap and get herself a drink of water. This would have required a degree of difficulty way beyond my sister's ability. She couldn't have opened a can of beans, put the contents in a saucepan, turned on the stove, heated them and then placed them on a plate, gotten a spoon out of the drawer and ate them. She couldn't go to the bathroom without assistance. In short my sister required a full time care giver or else she would have died within a couple of days just as an abandoned one and a half year old would have.
But yet conservatives would say that none of their hard earned money should have gone to support people like my sister. Even though they may have not had such dependent people as my sister in their families, it was just my parents' hard luck that they would have such a person in theirs. It was their problem, no one else's. My parents had to bear the burden of taking care of my sister without assistance of any kind from other taxpayers who, after all, had the right to spend their money any way they liked and not have it confiscated to deal with the plights of unfortunate families. That would have encroached upon their liberty. So my parents had to bear the costs and responsibilities of full time child care or else send my sister off to an institution. Of course they would have had to pay the institution unless it was publicly supported through other taxpayers' dollars which would have been again an encroachment on those taxpayers' liberties.
And my sister was not an easy person to take care of. Like any one and a half year old, she was always getting into mischief. She destroyed my parents' possessions. I don't know how many times she got into the Christmas presents, tore open all the packages and pulled down the Christmas tree upon herself. She was undisciplinable. She was unteachable. But you couldn't get mad at her. It wasn't her fault, really. In some societies she wouldn't have been tolerated. Hitler would have had her killed as a mental defective, someone who couldn't possibly make a positive contribution to society and yet required a full time expenditure of resources. Hitler would not have seen her as fully human. And yet she was fully human. She laughed; she cried. She gave and received love. She had a sense of humor. But as far as her higher mental faculties were concerned, she had none. She couldn't have held a job; she couldn't have supported herself.
Nevertheless, conservatives would not have wanted to part with their hard earned money to help support the likes of my sister. It wasn't their problem. It wasn't my parents' fault either. They did not ask to have born to them a child who didn't develop as a normal child, who never went to school, who never graduated, who never went to a prom, who never went to college, who never got married, who never bore grandchildren. It wasn't my sister's fault either. She didn't make a life choice that resulted in her condition. She never took drugs except those that were prescribed for her to deal with her seizures which caused her to fall a lot during the brief period in her life when she walked. No, the full burden of taking care of my sister should have been borne privately, conservatives would say, and not by means of any public expenditures which would have required a transfer of hard earned taxpayer dollars, a forcible confiscation of hard earned money, an encroachment on the liberty of one taxpayer to help another taxpayer. This would have been immoral according to some. It was no one's responsibility except my parents'.
Luckily, Jeanne was born into a family with two strong, capable and loving parents, both of whom were capable enough and loving enough to be willing to take on the full time responsibilty of caring for someone like my sister. Luckily, in later life they had the income and resources to take care of her, although even that was shaky at first since my mother ended up in a sanitarium with TB when Jeanne was nine months old. That in and of itself caused my father to declare medical indigency, let alone the costs of caring for my sister and me, all of which had to be borne by my father who also had the responsibilty of a full time job. Luckily, in later life they had the wherewithal to pay the price of having their home in a constant state of shambles due to a marauding one and a half year old who never progressed beyond that age. Of course, Jeanne had no table manners. One of her favorite tricks was to swoop at the butter dish with her spoon if it was within reach and scoop out half the contents that then found the way to her mouth all faster than you could say Jackie Robinson. You see she had some talents, but this was perhaps her most coordinated maneuver. She loved to go for rides in the car. Sometimes my parents would stop at a roadside stand and buy her an ice cream cone. Jeanne never forgot such spots. It could be a year later, but when my parents were approaching the same roadside stand, Jeanne would start cheering and pointing and imploring them in her own way to stop.
In later life, I think my parents were able to start collecting social security for my sister much to the horror of conservatives who don't believe their hard earned taxpayer dollars should be confiscated to assist people such as my parents in caring for people such as my sister. After all my parents had the resources (by then) to take care of her themselves. Why should taxpayers have to chip in? Maybe social security should be means tested so that those with ample resources should not receive it. But that would mean a lot of wealthy people would not get social security after they retired either. Oh I see, maybe that's not such a good idea. Anyway Jeanne was able to receive social security for a few years. It helped pay for the special dentist she had to go to and her various other doctors' bills and medications. After my father died, my mother didn't figure she could take care of my sister in her own advanced age so she tried to get her into the Homestead which was a home that provided full time care giving for old people who couldn't care for themselves or whose families couldn't care for them and for people like my sister. However, despite the fact that my father had been a fairly prominent local school superintendant and budding politician before he died, my mother couldn't get Jeanne into the Homestead. I guess there was an inadequate flow of taxpayer dollars to fund such an institution compared to the need. Finally, after pulling numerous strings including contacting the politicians my father had been associated with, Jeanne was admitted to the Homestead where she lived the last three years of her life. I hate to think what would have happened to a less well connected family with the same problem.
But this dissertation isn't just about my sister who was at one end of the scale of dependency. There are far more people who aren't as badly off as her who still have some degree of dependency. There are fairly high functioning people who, nevertheless, aren't capable of being totally independent. There are people who can for the most part fend for themselves but need some assistance in order to get by. There are people, unlike my sister, who are trainable. These people can learn how to do some simple tasks. They can learn how to take care of some of their own personal needs. And then there are people who can largely function in a supportive environment. They couldn't function, perhaps, as isolated rugged individuals, but in a family they can provide some functions while other family members provide other functions. Co-dependency in the psychological literature is a bad word. It's considered a negative to be co-dependent, but, in any society, people are co-dependent. For instance, most people who are not mechanics are co-dependent on their mechanics to service and maintain their cars. And the mechanics are co-dependent on them to get money to earn a living. In families perhaps one spouse can't balance the checkbook while the other can. But the one who can't balance the checkbook might be able to bake a cake, something the other one can't. Co-dependency is the essence of any cooperative social situation. So in some ways almost everyone in society, despite the myth of the rugged individualist, is dependent on someone else. No man or woman is an island. Some people can function quite well in some environments, not at all in others. There are various degrees of psychological and physical problems which no amount of hard work can overcome.
So I think dependency is a wide ranging phenomenon. There are those who can't function normally, and, therefore, need public assistance because there aren't the resources within their families to provide the requisite assistance or maybe they don't have any family at all. These people might be able to function quite normally within certain supportive situations, but they can't make it on their own. But these people would be left at the side of the road to die unless society was able to divert some of the more able taxpayers' hard earned money to assist them. Some people only need temporary assistance. Some people like my sister need full time assistance their entire lives.
I have known other quite highly functioning people who, nevertheless, couldn't make it in society without taxpayer provided assistance. Such people, according to conservatives, should just suck it up and work hard and make it on their own instead of asking them to part with their hard earned money to support some liberal social program that might make it possible for them to live a fairly full life. Such a person we'll call Grandma Nelson, not her real name, because she's still living. After her divorce Grandma Nelson just couldn't make it on her own. She tried. She got her own apartment. She got a job, a fairly low paid one, since Grandma Nelson didn't have many skills other than having been a wife and a mother. Somehow, Grandma Nelson could never get her life to work. She got involved with boyfriends who mistreated her. She wasn't able to function well at her job. She went from job to job and those were in the days when jobs were readily available before the low skilled jobs had all been outsourced to China. And then Grandma Nelson would get behind in her rent. The accumulation of all these problems would result finally in a mental breakdown and Grandma Nelson would end up in the hospital. From there she would go to a half way house where she seemed to function quite well taking care of herself and helping out with the other inhabitants until she was ready to reenter society. She would start out again with a job, an apartment and a new boyfriend, but somehow the process would repeat itself and she would wind up back in the half way house. Luckily, in those days there were such places as half way houses. That was before state funds had dried up for such places. Finally, Grandma Nelson realized that the best place for her was in the half way house as a permanent situation. There she was in a supportive environment. She wasn't completely on her own. In this environment she could function quite well and even help to earn her own keep. But I'm sure that some hard earned taxpayer money was necessary to keep the half way house going. But today conservatives can rejoice in the fact that such places have been closed down due to a lack of funding and such people as Grandma Nelson are out on the street.
Social Darwinism has made its ugly return to American life with a vengeance of Dickensian proportions! Social Darwinism has replaced Matthew 25 in which Jesus instructs his disciples that true devotion to Him is based on helping "the least of these my brethren" rather than the mental calisthenics involved in having the politically correct belief system. Service to the needy is more important than being "washed in the blood" and being "saved" and all the other brainwashed crap that billionaire religious entrepreneurs have come up with to convince people that religion is all in your head and you don't have to get off your duff to help anyone else. You just have to give them money! Helping another person is immoral if it means the transfer of hard earned taxpayer money in order to do so. So the conservative religionists tell us. But if you take Jesus' words at face value, my parents were saints!
There are all kinds of situations in which people can't function well in society. Sometimes it's because of physical problems that interfere with getting a job. Sometimes it's because of psychological problems. Sometimes, like the present, it's because there are no jobs. Even a job, when you think about it, is a co-dependent situation. The employee is dependent on the employer for a pay check. The employer is dependent on the employee to do the job. Only the self-employed are the true rugged individualists. In many cases families provide for the nurturing, education and training of their young people and this seems to be sufficient for them to go out and become fully functioning members of society in most cases. In other cases families don't have the resources either financial or psycological to provide the nurturing environment that people need to become fully functioning members of society. In some cases this can be made up for by a public school system which guarantees every child the right to a basic education. Where there is not a functioning public school system, only the rich are educated, and the poor are doomed to a life of poverty. This, presently, is unthinkable in the US, but is the actual situation in many parts of the world. However, the public school system represents a situation where hard earned taxpayer money is transferred from the rich to the poor in order to provide education for people that wouldn't be able to pay for it on their own. Conservatives, in order to redress this unfortunate situation in which money is taken from those who have worked hard to earn it and given to those who haven't, want to privatize all public institutions including public schools. Rather than their hard earned money going to a public school, they want all families to pay for the education of their own children directly. By this line of reasoning people will have to work harder if they can't pay for private school or else have fewer children. Those who can't pay for their childrens' education just shouldn't have children, that's all.
So in the final analysis what's to be done about all the people who for one reason or another either just can't cope with life without some form of assistance or are temporarily or permanently dependent on others to provide for them. What's to be done for those whose families can't provide for them? The conservative solution is just to leave them by the side of the road if they can't pull their own weight. This is more preferable than making some taxpayer have to part with their hard earned money in order to have a society where some other person could lead a better and more productive life at their expense. The conservative solution is to let those whose families can pay for the education and welfare of their family members do so, but, if the family can't provide for the education and well being of its family members, that family will have to suffer the consequences without taxpayer assistance. If discouraged and forgotten people turn to crime, that's their own moral shortcomings. If a family cannot put a roof over their own head, hard earned taxpayer money should not be used to do so because this would set the example that people will be given stuff that they didn't have to work for. This would be moral hazard. The highest form of morality is that money should not be taken from people who have earned it to help some other person who hasn't earned it. After all this is what Ayn Rand taught. When it comes down to it, people who can't provide for themselves should be left to their own devices even if with a little assistance they might have become more productive members of society. So when it comes right down to it, it is preferable to build public jails to house them than to build public schools to educate them. But even the jails should be privatized so that they don't become government takeovers. The public school system has already become a government takeover so it needs to be retaken over by private corporations. What we need is a corporate takeover of jails and schools and more corporate profits. If that's the price to be paid for keeping government small, so be it! After all government should do nothing except to be a contractor subcontracting out all functions to private corporations.
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